Learning Feminism

June 5, 2009

New rules

Filed under: Uncategorized — Joce Claire @ 3:52 pm
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Well, I’ve tried to be civil and even-handed and “nice” (though being overly nice has always gotten me fucked over in the past), and it’s not working with some people.

So, new commenting policy:

1. If you cannot treat my commenters or  me with a basic amount of human decency, you will be banned.

2. Personal insults and attacks on my commenters or me, or intentional use of misogyny, racism, anti-lesbianism, classism, sizeism, ableism, etc. will result in banning.

3. Unintentional use of any -ism will be given a chance to be called out and discussed, since we all make mistakes.

My blog, my rules.



  1. Thanks a lot for that, Joceclaire.

    Comment by Maggie — June 5, 2009 @ 4:14 pm | Reply

  2. Joceclaire, I think that’s perfectly “nice”! In my book, “nice” is not always the opposite of “mean.” Like putting up with *any & all* abuse hurled at you in the name of being kind–that’s not required of nice people.

    Demanding/expecting that people conduct themselves in compliance with minimum standards of decency should go without saying, ffs! Defining the general boundaries of “niceness” IS nice!! Particularly to yourself and your supportive commenters–which everyone DESERVES. In fact, I’m pretty sure I would’ve banned unpleasant commenters long before you did. And you know I fancy myself as a “nice” person!! 😉

    At the end of the day, yeah: MY blog, MY rules!

    Comment by undercover punk — June 7, 2009 @ 9:33 am | Reply

    • Thanks for your support!

      I definitely think you are nice, and very welcoming to other women, which I have much appreciated.

      And yeah, I have for too long conflated being “nice” with “putting up with abuse,” because I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings or make someone not like me … radfem has helped me feel more self-contained and less dependent on what others think of me, but I’m not all the way there yet!

      Comment by joceclaire — June 7, 2009 @ 7:03 pm | Reply

  3. Hey Joceclaire, btw, I didn’t know where to post this on your blog but: I love the image that you use as a WordPress avatar. Those lovely kitties look so cuddly. 🙂 Are these your cats?

    Comment by Maggie — June 8, 2009 @ 6:17 pm | Reply

    • Thank you! They are! My two little babies. Snowy (girl) and Ziggy (boy). She’s mothered and groomed him since he was little … he’s a real sweetheart, he sleeps with me every night. She’s a bit more temperamental.

      Do you have pets?

      Comment by Joce Claire — June 8, 2009 @ 6:24 pm | Reply

      • Oh, they’re so cute. 🙂

        Yeah, I have one cat, called Wendy. She’s white, gray and beige. Her pic is on my old blog (got a link to it on my new one).

        Comment by Maggie — June 9, 2009 @ 1:49 am | Reply

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